Presentations
Ready for something new for your event participants? Check out our one of a kind workshops!
Our classes and workshops are presented by Daniel Belum, who has been educating audiences at over 400 events since 2005! He is not only highly skilled, but also engaging, entertaining, and thought-provoking.
Also, check out our full day intensives – Unusual and Unique BDSM and Connection & Confidence.
Making Connections
Improv for Kinky Introverts!
Note for event producer: depending on your attendee audience, “Improv for the Kinky & Neurospicy” is a great alternative title.
This is a low-pressure, high-enjoyment space where socially anxious, quiet, or neurodivergent kinksters can explore connection through laughter and presence. Using gentle improv exercises designed for introverts, we’ll practice staying in the moment, saying “yes, and,” and building comfort with playful uncertainty—skills that translate beautifully into both social and kink scenes.
You don’t need to be loud, funny, or experienced—just curious. Come as you are, leave with tools for confidence, co-creation, and connection!
New here? Guided Meet & Greet!
Note for event producer: this is more than just a gathering of people; we use a variety of tools to help people actually connect and end up having a better event overall and avoiding feeling like an outsider.
New to the scene? New to this space? Or just feeling a little shy? This guided meet & greet is designed to help you ease in, find your people, and ask your questions—without pressure. We’ll use light structure, playful prompts, and consent-centered connection exercises to break the ice without breaking your nervous system.
Whether you’re solo or partnered, kinky or kink-curious, introverted or a bit overwhelmed—come as you are. You’ll leave feeling more grounded, more connected, and more confident about taking your next steps.
Self Confidence is Sexy
You’ve taken the big step and became part of the polyamory, kink, alt, swinging, or power exchange community. Now, people are falling all over themselves to fulfil your desires and help you find your authentic self…right?
Join us for a class that focuses on how to develop and maintain appropriate confidence. Appropriate Confidence is the self assurance that isn’t hinged on one specific instance of success (or crushed because of one instance that things go bad). It is an internal knowing that you are in the right place, you are enough, you belong, and that you won’t be swayed by others views of you…at least, not for long.
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Don’t forget to check out the one of a kind Connection & Confidence Intensive.
BDSM For Anyone
Erotic to Extreme: Chemical Play 101
From mild sensations to pain that will make the biggest masochist say ‘never again!’, learn the fundamentals of Chemical play! Lots of hands on opportunities as you discover this underutilized play.
Breast Play For Nice and Naughty
Join us for a workshop on breast play! Bumping, bruising, pinching, touching and more! First an overview and safety, then we get ‘hands on’! This is an interactive workshop for those that want to get directly involved – bring your favorite toys, advise, experience, and breast to practice on (some demo bottoms may be in attendance or ‘byo boobs’)
Biting and Bashing – Rough Body Play for Every BODY
Think a hug isn’t quite enough? Want to add some teeth (literally) to your play? This class covers biting and bashing—the primal, physical stuff that’s intense, hot, and weirdly connecting. We’ll teach you how to do it right: the technique, the safety stuff, and how to turn rough contact into scenes that actually work.
Find (and negotiate) Pick Up Play for the Shy…and Everyone Else
Join us for a workshop on how to find and connect to people to scene with at an event. Then, once you find them, use these specific tips for safer pick up play negotiation. This class is great for new people to the scene as well as those that are shy, introverts, or just haven’t found the groove to find consistent play!
Hands Free Orgasm? Transformation? Hypnokink!
Learn the basics of hypnokink! This beginner-friendly class is designed to demystify the art hypnokink, offering a comprehensive introduction to its principles, techniques, and applications, any how to apply for kinky people! Both hypno-kinksters and the hypno-curious welcome!
Sensual BDSM
Want more from BDSM? Join Dan as he discusses bringing (or returning) a sense of connection, intimacy, and desire to your BDSM scene. He will discuss what we can do to take your BDSM experience deeper and to avoid getting stuck in BDSM being a purely physical or social experience. “We walked into the dungeon and heard people talking about politics and fishing; a top leaned down and whispered to his bottom about one brand of rope over another; another ‘top’ was holding court in the middle of the space, showing the newer players how awesome he was. We want much more from our scenes. We want a connection and intimacy that will be more than just a physical – swing, hit, swing, hit – scene”
Introduction to BDSM
Everything you need to get started on your BDSM journey! From basic “how to’s” with many of the most common BDSM toys (such as floggers, paddles, and simple bondage) to topics such as ”setting up your scene” and the difference between BDSM and Ds. We will discuss not only the play itself, but also the very important aspects to take place before a “scene” (such as negotiation and safety) as well as after a scene (aftercare, sub drop, and keeping your toys clean). And see demonstration of many toys! You’ll get some ideas of what to expect – and what to avoid – as people get started in BDSM, either as a bedroom activity or as active participants in the lifestyle.
Looking for something unique? Click below to view the Unique and Uncommon BDSM Intensive.
More Classes
Power Exchange
“Submission is a gift and I should be cherished as the delicate flower I am” and other bullshit Mister Hank does not tolerate
Daniel Belum summons the mysterious “Mister Hank”, a power exchange Leader who rejects the trend of ‘soft and cuddle’ power exchange and tells you why you should too. Mister Hank doesn’t just want the best for His followers, He demands it. He takes it. He smashes down walls and claims that inner submissive that wants to be free. This class addresses decision making, self-confidence, ego, identifying strengths, and transforming you into someone completely living up to their full potential. Create in yourself that kind of person who belongs in the seat of power.
Combine Polyamory and Power Exchange…Successfully!
Daniel Belum, co-author of the books Hearts & Collars and The Polyamory Toolkit, leads an interactive class on how to successfully combine polyamory and power exchange! From when the commonly accepted ideals of these relationship types seem to come into conflict, to keeping power exchange healthy in the midst of new relationship energy, as well as the issues of vulnerability and security that power exchange thrives on but polyamory can challenge.
Earning Your Seat of Power for Leaders
Anyone can label themselves anything…but it doesn’t make you one. Daniel Belum, who has been in a full time power exchange relationship since 2001 and led many others, leads a workshop on what it takes to actually be a good power exchange Leader. From skills around managing your ego, looking in the mirror, understanding what to do when you are wrong – yet still maintaining self confidence and relationship growth. Managing a full time power exchange relationship is not something you should do lightly – develop the tools to help you feel worthy of the devotion of a follower.
Sensuality And Sacred Sex
Talking Naughty
Daniel Belum, an intimate lifestyle practitioner since 2001, shares the fine art of talking dirty. Through discussion, demonstrations, and exercises, he explores using talk as part of your scene and assists participants in finding and releasing their inner erotic voice. He discusses getting started; getting over shyness; general vocal items; making sure you say what your partner will enjoy hearing; and approaches that range from soft and sensual to hot & slutty talk.
Flirting!
Are you hesitant to flirt because you feel awkward, forgot how or never knew how? Daniel Belum’s flirting workshop helps teach basic flirting technique as a communication tool. He not only teaches some basic flirting techniques but also discusses how to get beyond any lack of confidence that stops you from meeting the people you are interested in. He also discusses how to be an honest flirt – be clear in what you are looking for when you flirt. “It is true – Daniel is a big flirt. But when he flirts with me, it always feels like a compliment instead of being slimed on”.
Polyamory
8 Poly Tools
Daniel Belum, co-author of The Polyamory Toolkit, offers an advanced class that gives participants tools to break free of the patterns and attitudes that keep us trapped in discomfort, fear, unhappiness and jealousy. No theorizing or quoting from scholarly viewpoints – get into the weeds and put the tools to work!
Mash-Up! Managing multiple power exchange partnerships
Sheila has a sub. And a slave. The slave is also a switch. A switch that tops a puppy. A puppy who owns a boi. A boi who dates Sheila. Daniel Belum, who has a variety of power exchange (as well as polyamorous and vanilla) relationships, discusses tools to help navigate multiple partner power exchange and alt relationships. The answer might start with time management and physical logistics, but heart management and sexy logistics need to be accounted for too!
Hypnokink
Hypnokink Share and Do!
Daniel Belum, certified hypnotist, leads a gathering of both hypno-kinksters and hypno-curious in two part session. Start off with a guided conversation around hypnosis and how it can be used consensually and for kinky fun!
And in part 2, do some hypnokink! Participate as a Tist or as a receiver, with clear safe boundaries. Don’t worry, you won’t be made to act like a chicken…unless that is your kink!
Presenting
As a Presenter: How To Be Educational AND Entertaining
Daniel Belum, a lifestyle practitioner since 2001 and longtime presenter believes that it is not enough to be educational, but you must be able to truly capture your audience’s attention as well. Drawing on not only His experience in presenting for the kink, leather and spiritual communities for over a decade as well as training and facilitating meetings in Corporate America, He combines this with His experience with community theater. He shares how He brings it all together to create an experience that keeps the audience’s attention so that the message the presenter is sharing can be heard.
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